My employment ventures have evolved organically. I joke that my beginnings as an entrepreneur started at age eight with my seasonal lemonade business, which was actually quite successful! During high school and college, I took summer jobs at out-of-state resorts. This got me away from the Phoenix desert heat and my unhealthy home front of a raging, domineering father and a mother trying to cope by her daily consumption of alcohol.
I interrupted my college sophomore year in 1963 and took a year off, working as a clerk for the FBI in Washington, D.C., at the Justice Department. This trip also constituted my first airplane ride. I loved everything about D.C. The museums, monuments, open-air cafes, snow, cherry blossoms, brownstones, Georgetown district, the Capitol, and the White House all represented a completely different lifestyle and environment from those where I grew up in Phoenix. I also experienced history in the making — Martin Luther King’s first march on Washington, an attempt on Bobby Kennedy’s life at the Justice building, and being let out of work after John Kennedy’s assassination to watch the caisson take his body from the White House to the Capitol rotunda. I even rode down the elevator with J. Edgar Hoover on the way to my department’s softball game on the National Mall. Also, I had a date for one of the galas at the Annapolis Naval Academy.
My entrepreneurial bug resurfaced from 1974-1981 with my interior plantscaping business in Phoenix. This business also introduced me to speaking and writing professionally. It was novel at the time to have a woman running this type of business. Also, installing and maintaining tropical plants for businesses in a desert environment was unusual. Hence, radio, television and business/civic organizations invited me to speak on how to grow and care for tropicals. Initially, speaking was scary but a friend took me to Toastmasters as a guest and I decided to join. It became a two-year commitment, during which I learned how to get my butterflies in formation. In addition, I was approached by Rau Publishing to write my booklet, So You Want to Grow a Plant! This was followed by Phoenix Home and Garden magazine hiring me for a brief time to be their interior plant editor. So, I was now a writer.
My second husband, Samuel, introduced me to Science of Mind in 1975. I had become totally disenchanted with the Catholic Church and I liked what I heard at the Religious Science services. I didn’t know I was spiritually thirsty, but I was. So, I started taking ministerial classes and, without any conscious intention, I completed all of the Religious Science requirements for ministerial licensing. I decided to apply for a position as an assistant minister in the western part of the United States. The Huntington Beach Church of Religious Science hired me. I had sold my interior plantscaping business to a former employee, and I was free to leave for California.
This began my training in officiating weddings, memorial services and baptisms. After a year at the church, I found the politics and administrative duties too limiting and I left to do freelance marketing.
Still, I had discovered my love for ministerial work. Over the years, people still gravitated toward me to perform their weddings and other ministerial duties. I didn’t know this would be my new path for earning money after my brain injury.
I made several attempts to return to work soon after my accident in 1990. The first effort was as an assistant for a real estate broker. Taking everything my boss said literally, and then calling him on his ineffectiveness with his work habits, made this a short-lived endeavor. I lasted four weeks before being fired.
Next, I signed up at several temporary staffing agencies. Though I could initially do the administrative work assignments, my fatigue and slow information processing caused continual problems and made these jobs impossible over a longer period of time. I found I could only last on any collective assignment (8 a.m. to 5 p.m., five days in a row) for three weeks. I became more deeply depressed about these limitations. I desperately needed to work, as I had no insurance income and my SSDI (Social Security Disability Income) was only $485 a month. I qualified for food stamps, and gratefully accepted this resource. My medicines and doctor visits were being subsidized because of my low income. But I felt humiliated. I didn’t want handouts. This just wasn’t me. One of the frustrating things about the brain injury is I couldn’t “make” or push myself to do something. When my brain shut down – it shut down. The only remedy was to withdraw from any stimulation and rest.
Next, I attempted to work as a nanny, which included light household chores, laundry, picking up the girls from school and fixing dinner. This job seemed like it would be perfect. I loved the family and the girls. At ages seven and nine, they were precious. I had sold my car after the accident because I found I couldn’t process information quickly enough to safely drive. It was now two years after the injury. I didn’t think driving the family car to pick up the girls would be a problem. After a second close call with the girls in the car, I became really concerned. So, I gave my notice.
I hadn’t lost my desire or vision to work. I had been independent before the brain injury and that picture still remained. When I learned about mystery shopping, I found the work could be done in my own time and at my own pace. The two years I spent evaluating customer service for various businesses and filling in their required forms helped me regain my physical and mental strength and rebuild my self-confidence. It was tiring, but I was able to do it.
A girlfriend, Pam, was working for Grand Slam Tennis Tours, a company that booked and accompanied clients to many of the major tennis tournaments around the world. She told me her manager, Karen, was looking for temporary help with the upkeep of the company database. Karen also needed someone to copy, collate and assemble the 25-page tour guide that was given to each tournament attendee. This job became the gift that placed me back into the business world. Occasionally I would answer the phone, which gave me practice with communication skills. Grand Slam totally accommodated my inability to work long or consistent hours. It was a slow process over a four-year period, but I was definitely growing in stamina and aptitude in a business environment. I knew I had grown in ability and performance when Karen asked if I would “hold down the office” when all of the staff were needed for a large client tour to Wimbledon. In my heart I felt like I had graduated Basic Business Essentials 101.
During my time at Grand Slam, I decided to get a business license. I wanted to write my workbook, Thinking out of the Box – Strategies for Handling Change, and began to entertain the possibility of doing public speaking again. Grand Slam launched me into the world I had dreamed of re-entering. This world provided a vision that continually ignited the fire to fuel my passion.